Chris’ Story

Chris is 63 years old. He experiences same-sex attraction.

“Growing up I was a wimpy kid who did not excel in sports, hunting or a lot of things boys did. I usually felt awkward (still do) in conversations with guys about these things. My father was all about work. Said his dad called him ‘wimpy’. My father never talked to me about girls, marriage or sex. My experience with girls and dating was uncomfortable and awkward and never ended in marriage. At the age of 31 I started to notice an attraction to men unlike I had experienced toward women. It has never gone beyond this stage and 30 years later I am ready for a change.”

Mark’s Story

Mark is 44 years old. He experience same-sex attraction.

I am a Christian man who has experienced a lifelong struggle with unwanted same-sex attraction.  The story of the consequences of sin which tore my world apart (and the hope and truth which restored it) can be found on my blog.

. . . I grew up in a Christian home with a Christian heritage on both sides of my family. My maternal grandfather was a Methodist minister all of his adult life and my paternal grandmother played the church organ. My parents have always been very involved in church, holding important roles of leadership, teaching Sunday School, and serving on various committees. My father is also one of the hardest working people I know, heavily involved in a family business since he was a teenager. He is liked and respected by everyone in the church and in the community.

Before I go any further, let me say that what I am about to share is in no way meant to put my father down or take away from those things I just listed. I wouldn’t even feel the need to share it had it not contributed to a major part of my story. I also want to note that today I can say that my relationship with my father has never been better and he has made great efforts in the last several years to help fix those things which had long been broken. As you read my story you will understand why I feel the need to tell this part of my story. I’m sure there will be some who will read this part of my story and will be able to see similar circumstances in their own background and this may be a help to them . . .

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Antonio’s Story

Antonio is 35 years old. He states he is sexually attracted to other men.

My name is Antonio, 35 years of age and reside in Georgia. I became involved in “the life” as they called it. I was molested at the age of 5; which I feel is what opened the door. I was the infamous little boy who couldn’t fit in with my playmates. Very sensitive and delicate. I found my refuge in church songs or hearing about how much Jesus loved me.

I played “house” with other young boys growing up and my urges became more and more pronounced. I started hooking up with guys around age 12 and began to get more and more crafty in my ways of seducing to fulfill my sexual desires. Things began to escalate as I got older and began hanging around the locker rooms/showers of gyms in attempts to “hook up”.

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Article #100: Resources For Same-Sex Attracted/LGBTQ Youth and Male Survivors of Domestic Violence, Abuse and Prostitution (2 videos)

More Resources for LGBTQ YouthAs Christians, we need to acknowledge the needs of male survivors of abuse/violence and LGBTQ youth who are vulnerable. We need to be proactive in increasing awareness. They need our prayers, love and tangible support. Help stop the exploitation, isolation and shame by providing safe spaces for these precious men and youth. Share these resources with those who may need help.

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Article #99: My Recommended Reading List (1 video)

15 books are listed in this video. You can read my synopsis of  12 of them by clicking (copy/paste) the link below.

Note: Hey everybody. A couple of readers have notified me that when they play the following video, there is a double image (side-by-side). To view the video on YouTube, click here.

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Same – Sex Attraction and Homosexuality: My Recommended Reading List

Article #98: Validating Same-Sex Attracted Christians (1 video)

We want to be acknowledged.

Not ignored. Not tolerated. Not vilified. Not stereotyped. Not ridiculed.

To view this week’s video (via YouTube in a new window or tab), click the image below. To read the source article, click this link:

Article #55: Validating Same-Sex Attracted Christians

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Article #97: Describing Your Sexual Identity (1 video)

Give individuals the time, the intellectual space and the emotional space they need to sort through and express their sexual identity. Extend to them grace. Validate what they are experiencing. We must earn the right to speak into someone’s life. Who are we to prejudge a situation or a person we know little about?

There is background music in this week’s preview video . . .

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Article #96: Managing Your Same-Sex Attractions (3 videos)

 

2 cor 4 16 17“That is why we never give up. Our physical body is becoming older and weaker, but our spirit inside us is made new every day. We have small troubles for a while now, but these troubles are helping us gain an eternal glory. That eternal glory is much greater than our troubles. So we think about what we cannot see, not what we see. What we see lasts only a short time, and what we cannot see will last forever.”

– 2 Corinthians 4:16 – 18 (ERV)

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In an earlier post, I defined the term “managing one’s same-sex attractions” as follows:

“. . . although we may experience or contend with homosexual attractions, we can identify ourselves in ways that are in keeping with traditional Christian beliefs and values. We can take steps to structure and live our lives in the context of vocation, stewardship and Christlikeness. I believe God wants us to know that it is okay to struggle. He will help and advocate for us. He will still love us and accept us. . .”

The videos below are longer than the previous videos in this series (2.5 to 4.5 minutes each). To make them easier to follow, I added a smooth jazz track to each one. You may want to adjust your volume accordingly.

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Article #95: Same-Sex Attractions, Sanctification and Fidelity (1 video)

Each of us can become better stewards of all that God has given us. This includes our sexuality and sexual behavior.

Same-sex attraction or a homosexual orientation will likely remain an enduring, ongoing battle or condition for most of us. Even so, God’s provision for us may be uniquely different and unexpected from what we think it should be.

Here’s this week’s video . . .

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Article #94: The Importance of Male Friendship and Emotional Intimacy (1 video)

Did you know this upcoming Sunday (August 2, 2015) is Friendship Day?

On an emotional level, how well do you relate to and connect with your guy friends? How would you describe your relationship with the male friends in your life? What qualities do you look for in your friendships? Would others describe you a good friend?

Mutual respect, affirmation and affection with our guy friends can be extremely difficult – but a treasure when it happens. I was 20 years old before I finally allowed another man to be my friend. I described the circumstances of how the emotional barrier between us was finally broken in today’s featured post. The experience was totally unexpected.

Within the same article (below the video) you will find . . .

  • my observations about the characteristics that should typify friendships (brotherhood) between Christian guys
  • links to articles about emotional dependency and the limits of emotional intimacy
  • and a great article by Nick Roen – where he considers the question, “should I not pursue intimate male relationships because of the dangers of (sexual) attraction?”

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