Links To SSA-Related Blogs I Follow

While updating and redesigning this website (which is now complete), I decided to bundle the links for these blogs in a separate post/page for your convenience. Click the photo of the blogger to open their blog in a new tab or window. Julie Rodgers “I write and speak about homosexuality and the Christian faith. Because…

Reader Feedback and Insights (Updated July 2019)

Hey everyone! It has been 7 years since I started this blog. I have learned so much. And I have been humbled by you sharing your insights and experiences. Even though I am no longer posting any new articles, the blog is still active and I continue to monitor it on a regular basis. One…

Antonio’s Story

Antonio is 35 years old. He states he is sexually attracted to other men. My name is Antonio, 35 years of age and reside in Georgia. I became involved in “the life” as they called it. I was molested at the age of 5; which I feel is what opened the door. I was the…

Listen To Him: Encouragement For Parents

Video Summary: Scroll down to read the full text of this article. If you are a parent, let me first say I can’t even begin to imagine how you feel or what you are going through. Please weigh and consider my brief thoughts with the concern with which they are given. I strongly urge you…

More On Coming Out (Part 2): How Open Should You Be?

Originally posted on Spiritual Friendship:
As I mentioned in my last post, I’m often asked by other sexual minority Christians how open they should be about their sexuality. There is no single answer for everyone, so I would like to offer some reflections on the process of discernment. Towards that end, in my previous post…

How To Manage Sexual Temptation When Traveling

My previous articles on lust, pornography, sexual addiction and masturbation are here, here and here. Today’s post (and next week’s post) are a continuation of these articles. The stress of being isolated or having to deal with strained relationships is hard enough for many men who struggle with unwanted homoerotic sexuality. For some, the holiday…

Same-Sex Attraction: Pornography and Masturbation

Video Summary (3 videos): Scroll down to read the full text of this article. This article is the continuation of Same-Sex Attraction and Lust. This article is written from and to a male’s perspective. Today’s post is divided into 4 sections . . . (1)   Thoughts and Considerations (2)   Masturbation Inventory (3)   Pornography Use…

What Do You Want the Church (Your Church) To Know About You?

“When we cripple a person’s opportunity to be honest and open we destroy their chance to find identity in Christ.” I want the seven questions in this video to be an opportunity for you to express to others what you want them to know. . About: You are invited to answer these questions by clicking…

Validating Same-Sex Attracted Christians

Video Summary: Scroll down to read the full text of this article. . “People who surrender their unwanted same-sex attractions to the Lord need time and support to fulfill God’s plan for their lives. As with each of us, they need love, acceptance, and accountability to grow. As we stand alongside them and support their…

“Why Don’t You Have A Girlfriend?” (and Other Nosy Questions)

“Why are you still single?” “When are you going to have children?” “Do you plan on getting married anytime soon?” “Why don’t you have a girlfriend?” Now that I have reached the age of 40, my romantic aspirations are no longer a topic of conversation at family gatherings. (However, there is that one person who…

Bend Down, Not Over: An Interview with Robert L. (Pt 4 of 4)

“When you came to Jesus as a gay sex addict, He took what He had to work with, a malfunctioning passion to love indiscriminately . . . it is now a gift in the Restorer’s hand . . . the ability to love without prejudice.” – Steve, Robert’s accountability partner and friend (from the article:…

How Do You Describe Your Sexual Identity?

Video Summary: Scroll down to read the full text of this article. Sexuality is fundamentally personal and subjective. Introspection and self-knowledge are often difficult. We need to be careful when we consider using (or not using) labels to describe ourselves and others. Labels are words that we create, assign and use to describe feelings, senses,…

How To Talk To Young Kids About Same-Sex Relationships (Jason Bilbrey)

As 2014 draws to a close, I am highlighting my three favorite blog posts and bloggers (in no particular order). For a list of my favorite bloggers (and blog posts), click here. My second choice for the year: Jason Bilbrey He is the director of Pastoral Care at the Marin Foundation. Here’s his blog: jasonbilbrey.com…

An Alternative Script For Same-Sex Attraction (Nick Roen)

It is that time of year when I spotlight my three favorite blog posts and bloggers of the year (in no particular order). For a list of my favorite bloggers (and blog posts), click here. First up for 2014: Nick Roen Nick blogs at: hopeinvisible.weebly.com . 4 Links to my favorite articles by Nick. And…

Connecting With Pain and Brokenness

Today’s post serves two purposes. First, it clarifies my background outlined on the “About Me” page. Second, it introduces an upcoming 4-part interview series on this blog. It was the spring of 1998. Having graduated from a Christian university in Nashville two years earlier, I moved to New England to further my training as a…

Male Friendship and Emotional Intimacy

Video Summary: Scroll down to read the full text of this article. . Why do men generally act as if they don’t need one another? Why do they continue to live isolated and defeated spiritual lives? Because men are macho. Men are self-reliant. Men don’t touch. Men don’t feel. Men love things and believe it…

Reconciliation, Prayer and the Holidays

Many people are surprised when I tell them that I am an unenthusiastic fan of Christian entertainment. However, in terms of quality for a “Christian” film, there is one definite exception. “Reconciliation” (starring Eric Nenninger and Jack Maxwell) is one of my absolute favorites. Wow! I cried and cried the first time I saw it….

Bend Down, Not Over: An Interview with Robert L. (Pt 3 of 4)

When you study Robert’s website (link below), you will find a central theme emerging – the necessity to trust and obey the Lord Jesus Christ; to experience a genuine faith walk where frustration, mistakes, stumbling, imperfection, pain and messiness are to be expected – not ignored nor hidden behind a mask. In Part One of…