mixed orientation marriageMy Introductory Comments:

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Many people who experience same-sex attractions are married to someone of the opposite sex/gender. In my earlier post about Dr. Yarhouse’s book (“Homosexuality and the Christian: A Guide for Parents, Pastors and Friends”), I noted that it is rare to see such a sensitive understanding and conversation about mixed-orientation marriage in a Christian lifestyle book about homosexuality. If you are searching for information about mixed-orientation marriage, I recommend the book cited above and this series of posts as helpful starting points. Part 2 – Quality of the Relationship. Part 3 – Sexual Intimacy. Part 4 – Suggestions for Counselors.

This link takes you to an academic paper Dr. Yarhouse co-authored on this subject: Characteristics of Mixed Orientation Couples: An Empirical Study

Divorce conceptThere has been recent interest in the experience of people in mixed orientation marriages. I thought I’d take a few blog posts to talk about these relationships in a way that is a little more accessible. So, let’s call this a series.

Mixed orientation marriages can be difficult to define. Most of us in the field tend to this of them as marriages in which one partner is a sexual minority by virtue of a homosexual orientation or strong/sustained sexual and emotional attraction to the same sex, while the other partner is heterosexual/straight. In popular language, a gay and straight person are married to one another. (As we will see, this is not always exactly right, as one or both may be bisexual, if we mean by that same-sex attracted but also attracted to the opposite sex in some meaningful capacity.)

What do we know about these marriages? Let me…

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