So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.”

– Romans 12:1, 2 (The Message)

This quote from the apostle Paul could be the unifying theme of this blog. Don’t let the larger culture, your subculture, the expectations others have of you or your own reasoning determine the course and the end result of your life.

As of January 2016, this post is where you can find the updated list of all the articles on this blog.

Click any of the links below to start exploring.

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Breaking the SilenceArticle #1: Some Thoughts About How We Approach Sex and Sexuality (Part 1)

What is the truth about sex?Article #2: Some Thoughts About How We Approach Sex and Sexuality (Part 2)

How should I respond Part 1 Article #3: As A Christian, How Should I Respond to Someone’s Homosexuality? (Part 1)

How should I respond Part 2Article #4: As A Christian, How Should I Respond To Someone’s Homosexuality (Part 2)

Let's Be Real / Untold StoriesArticle #5: Let’s Be Real

As a sexual minority, what are your attitudes and needs regarding non-sexual intimacy?

Between Us Guys parts 1, 2, 3Article #6: Same-Sex Attraction and Lust

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If You Struggle...Article #7: If Your Are Struggling With Same-Sex Attractions (or a Gay Identity)

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ID-10093868Article #8: Is There Hope? Is Their Forgiveness?

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I Keep Asking, Praying...Article #9 : “Why Didn’t These Feelings and Desire Go Away When I Became A Christian?” (or “I Keep Praying, But . . .”)

Between Us Guys parts 1, 2, 3Article #10: Homosexuality, Pornography and Masturbation

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youngArticle #11: Teens and Young Adults – Why I Am Angry

Listen To HimArticle #12: Listen To Him – Encouragement For Parents

Posts for Christians and Church LeadersArticle #13: Homosexuality and the Church (Part 1) – “Do You Think It Is A Sin?”

Reach OutArticle #14: Homosexuality and the Church (Part 2): Sharing the Gospel and Your Faith

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Article #15: Homosexuality and the Church (Part 3): We Must Acknowledge and Understand LGBT Culture and History

church part 4Article #16: Homosexuality and the Church (Part 4) – Encouragement For Church Leaders

church part 5Article #17: Do You Experience Unwanted Same-Sex Attractions? What Do You Want the Church To Know About You?

FriendsArticle #18: Male Friendship and Emotional Intimacy

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ThinkingArticle #19: Stinking Thinking and Self-Pity

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ssa poll questionArticle #20: What Motivates (or Motivated) You To Overcome Unwanted Homosexual Feelings?

This post includes the survey question: “Why Do You Want To Change?” The poll question is now open and you can only vote once. Vote now!

outreachArticle #21: Love Without Strings: Male Prostitution, Domestic Violence and Survivors of Abuse

In this post, the work of Emmaus Ministries (Chicago, IL) and The GLBTQ Domestic Violence Project (Cambridge, MA) are highlighted.

Our Lives Teach Us Who We Are.Article #22 : Our Lives Teach Us Who We Are

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Mike HaleyArticle #23: 101 Most Frequently Asked Questions About Homosexuality (Mike Haley)

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Chad ThompsonArticle #24: Loving Homosexuals As Jesus Would (interview with author Chad Thompson)

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Washed and WaitingArticle #25: Washed and Waiting: Reflections on Christian Faithfulness and Homosexuality (Wesley Hill)

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Between Us Guys parts 1, 2, 3Article #26: The Truth About Pornography

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Mark YarhouseArticle #27: Homosexuality and the Christian: A Guide for Parents, Pastors and Friends (Mark Yarhouse)

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Joe DallasArticle #28: The Gay Gospel?: How Pro-Gay Advocates Misread the Bible (Joe Dallas)

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justin and ron (transforming the conversation)Article #29: Ron Belgau and Justin Lee: Transforming the Conversation (video)

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Stanton Jones and Mark YarhouseArticle #30: Homosexuality: The Use of Scientific Research In The Church’s Moral Debate (Stanton Jones and Mark Yarhouse)

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William P. CampbellArticle #31: Turning Controversy Into Church Ministry: A Christlike Response to Homosexuality (William Campbell)

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Melinda SelmysArticle #32: Sexual Authenticity: An Intimate Reflection on Homosexuality and Catholicism (Melinda Selmys)

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Yarhouse and Burkett Article #33: Sexual Identity: A Guide to Living in the Time Between the Times (Mark Yarhouse and Lori Burkett) – Part 1

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Yarhouse and Burkett Article #34: Sexual Identity: A Guide to Living in the Time Between the Times (Mark Yarhouse and Lori Burkett) – Part 2

This book (more than any other) has helped me with this difficult question:

“I am a Christian. I love God. I want my life, my discipleship, my stewardship to glorify and please the Lord. I am beginning to understand (maybe even accept?) that my homosexual desires and inclinations will remain a part of my life. How do I live with same-sex attractions?”

What's The Deal With Gay People?Article #35: What the Deal With Gay People? (by Kris Parker)

safetyArticle #36: My Big Gay Safety Net (by StayStrongSojourner)

Starting Conversations. And Stopping Them.Article #37: Starting Conversations. And Stopping Them. (by Sally Gary)

boycotting an unnecessary evilArticle #38: Boycotting – An Unnecessary Evil (by Shawn Harrison)

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Christianity Isn'tArticle #39: Christianity Isn’t About Going From “Gay” to “Straight” . . . It Is About Turning From Sin To Jesus (by Matt Moore)

justin and ron 2 of 2Article #40: Understanding the Context of Debate (by Ron Belgau)

mixed orientation marriageArticle #41: Mixed-Orientation Marriages – Part 1 (by Mark Yarhouse)

Click here to find more links on the subject of mixed-orientation marriage.

Letter-Freshman Self/Your ExperienceArticle #42: Letter To My Freshman Self (by Matt Jones)

Diffusing the Transgender Christian DebateArticle #43: Diffusing the Transgender-Christian Debate (by Trista Carr)

Click here to find more links on the subject of transgenderism.

Andrew MarinArticle #44: Love Is An Orientation: Elevating the Conversation With the Gay Community (by Andrew Marin)

Let's Be Real / Untold StoriesArticle #45: Untold Stories, Missed Opportunities

Sexual minority African-American and fallen religious leaders are the focus of this article.

Barry DanylakArticle #46: Redeeming Singleness: How the Storyline of Scripture Affirms the Single Life (by Barry Danylak)

CenterpeaceArticle #47: Homosexuality and the Churches of Christ

Reconciliation (Movie)Article #48: Reconciliation, Prayer and the Holidays

Shawn HarrisonArticle #49: Ministering To Gay Teenagers: Practical Help For Youth Workers and Families (by Shawn Harrison)

A revision of this book was released in March 2014. For updates and other great resources, click this link to check out Shawn’s ministry website (SIX11.WORDPRESS.COM).

Letter-Freshman Self/Your ExperienceArticle #50: Your Experience With Unwanted Same-Sex Attractions

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survey Article #51: Male Friendship and Emotional Intimacy (survey)

This survey is now open and you can only vote once. Vote now!

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I am back after a 10-month absence. And my new goal is to write and share 50 more blog posts on the themes of homosexuality and living with unwanted same-sex attractions (by the end of 2015). Within these new articles, I will revisiting previous topics while expounding upon the practical application. I welcome you to listen and reflect with me. Be challenged. Pray. Share. Act.The Road Ahead: Living With Unwanted Same-Sex Attractions (article #52)

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What's Your Story? Article #53: Experience Unwanted SSA? Share Your Story.

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 every face has a storyArticle #54: Every Face Has A Story

Validating Same-Sex Attracted Christians Article #55: Validating Same-Sex Attracted Christians

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Article #56: 102 Ways To Serve Christ

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Managing Sexual Temptation When Traveling Article #57: How To Manage Sexual Temptation When Traveling

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Questioning Your Acting Out Motives Compulsions and Temptations: Questioning Your Acting Out Motives (article #58)

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How Do You Describe Your Sexual Identity? Article #59: How Do You Describe Your Sexual Identity?

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gift Question: Do You Consider Your Sexuality A Gift From God? (article #60)

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Forgive Article #61: My Brother Won’t Forgive Me

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Nick Roen Article #62: An Alternative Script For Same-Sex Attraction

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Jason Bilbrey Article #63: How To Talk To Young Kids About Same-Sex Relationships

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CelibacyArticle #64: How Is Gay Celibacy Different From Straight Celibacy?

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I-need-your-help Article #65: Inviting God In

 

 

 

broken2 Article #66: Connecting With Pain and Brokenness

 

 

 

peep showBend Down, Not Over: An Interview With Robert Lombardi (Part 1 of 4) – Article #67

 

 

 

trust 2Bend Down, Not Over: An Interview With Robert Lombardi (Part 2 of 4) – Article #68

 

trust 3Bend Down, Not Over: An Interview With Robert Lombardi (Part 3 of 4) – Article #69


 

trust 4Bend Down, Not Over: An Interview With Robert Lombardi (Part 4 of 4) – Article #70

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Why Do You Want To Kow?Article #71: “Why Don’t You Have A Girlfriend?” (and Other Nosy Questions)

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Article #72: When I Was Afraid To Have Male Friends

 

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compelling love and sexual identity

Article #73: Compelling Love and Sexual Identity (video)

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JournalingManaging Your Same-Sex Attractions (Part 1 of 4): Recognizing and Tracking Your Habits (article #74)

Article #75 – More On Coming Out (Part 2): How Open Should You Be?

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More Resources for LGBTQ YouthArticle #76: More Resources For Same-Sex Attracted and LGBTQ Youth (& the People Who Care About Them)

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faithfulnessManaging Your Same-Sex Attractions (Part 2 of 4): Sanctification and Fidelity (article #77)

 

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stressed-out Experience Unwanted Same-Sex Attractions? What Stresses You Out the Most? (article #78)

This poll question is now open and you can only vote once. Vote now!

Anticiapting Challenges Managing Your Same-Sex Attractions (Part 3 of 4): Anticipating Challenges and Difficulties (article #79)

 

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dont give up Managing Your Same-Sex Attractions (Part 4 of 4): Patterns of Relapse, Alternatives to Relapse (article #80)

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Article #81: “As A Christian, How Should I Respond to Someone’s Homosexuality?” (2 videos)

Article #82: If A Teen Self-Discloses His Experience of Same-Sex Attraction, The First Thing To Do Is To Listen (1 video)

Article #83: Same-Sex Attractions and Lust (2 videos)

Article #84: Same-Sex Attraction, Pornography and Masturbation (2 videos)

Article #85: Is There Hope If You Are Struggling With Unwanted Same-Sex Attractions (2 videos)

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Article #86: Why Do You Want Your Homosexual Feelings or Inclinations To Go Away? (2 videos)

Article #87: Listen To And Acknowledge Someone’s Story (1 video)

Article #88: Do You Think Homosexuality Is A Sin? (1 video)

Article #89: “Because You Will Only Find Hope In Jesus!”: A Testimony by M D

Article #90: Before We Can Share Our Faith, We Have To Understand Mainstream LGBT Culture (2 videos)

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Article #91: Homosexuality and the Church – Encouragement For Ministry Leaders (1 video)

Article #92:  What Do You Want The Church To Know About You? (1 video)

Article #93: Writing Exercises That Can Help You Process Your Feelings and Thoughts About Experiencing Unwanted Same – Sex Attractions (1 video)

Article #94: The Importance of Male Friendship and Emotional Intimacy (1 video)

Article #95: Same-Sex Attractions, Sanctification and Fidelity (1 video)

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Article #96: Managing Your Same-Sex Attractions (3 videos)

Article #97: How Do You Describe Your Sexual Identity? (1 video)

Article #98: Validating Same-Sex Attracted Christians (1 video)

Article #99: My Recommended Reading List (1 video)

Article #100: Resources For Same-Sex Attracted/LGBTQ Youth and Male Survivors of Domestic Violence, Abuse and Prostitution (2 videos)

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