compelling love and sexual identity

“The film is controversial simply because it does not conform to the agenda of the far left or the far right. Seeing people connect out of love for one another is the only agenda.” – Kurt Neale (director)

The core question of this film? How do you connect with someone who greatly opposes, distresses, or even offends you concerning sexual identity differences?

In “Compelling Love and Sexual Identity” you will hear (in their own words) the heartfelt, personal stories of . . .

  • Thoele – a transgender woman
  • Julie – a gay Christian
  • Donald – a believer in Christ who experiences same-sex attraction
  • Dawson – a gay pastor
  • Trista – a sexual minority
  • Deborah – an out and proud lesbian
  • Robert – an evangelical pastor
  • John – “I have a sister . . . she says there’s not verbiage for what she thinks she is.”
  • Michael – a gay agnostic/atheist
  • Wendell and Dianne – Christian parents of a gay son
  • Marisa and Cynthia – a lesbian and a straight woman who are friends
  • Lavonia – a 95-year-old church lady

This top-notch documentary also includes honest and eye-opening street interviews with individuals across the United States. This film is a great resource to share in a group setting. A group study guide is available by clicking the link at the end of this article.


From the Director and the Producer . . .

“. . . this documentary does NOT push a religious agenda. “Compelling Love” presents a third option that goes beyond tolerance or intolerance, as it relates specifically to sexual identity differences.

This third option is compelling love. To me, compelling love is the experience (beautiful art) created when truth and grace collide. It occurs when people are truthful in expressing their stories, values, and beliefs, yet willing to receive with grace those who differ, offend, or stand positionally “against” them.
The film serves as a canvas, giving people the opportunity (regardless of their sexual identity or religious views) to paint their personal stories. Our hope is that they and those who view it will be drawn into an experience of compelling love.” – Kurt Neale (director/producer)

As a clinical psychologist, seminary professor, and ordained minister, I have encountered so many people whose questions and struggles regarding their sexual identity have gotten lost in the culture wars . . . For me, I look to Jesus Christ who received me when I was not like him. Our greatest need is for the acceptance of “others” without the precondition of accepting their beliefs or behaviors. This process begins with careful and compassionate listening.

This film is for anyone and everyone willing to listen. This includes the un-churched, the churched, the spiritual, the unspiritual, the straight, and naturally, the LGBTQ community.” – Dr. Gary Barnes (producer)


The Trailer (3 minutes) . . .

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The Feature-Length Film (92 minutes) . . .

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The Website . . .

Click here for more information about this documentary, to download the film, to view additional (and expanded) street interviews and to access the film’s study guide.


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