Are you sexually attracted to other guys but don’t identify with mainstream LGBT culture (or a gay identity)?
Do you agree with traditional Christian doctrine about sexuality and sexual behavior?
Feel like you’ve spent your whole life as if you were on the outside looking in?
As a seven-year-old, I watched the other boys run, jump, tumble, roll, wrestle and yell. Animalistic, unrestrained and LOUD. Being shy and awkward, I just stared at them on the playground during recess. Forcing my back into the rough, brick wall of the school building with all my strength, my heart was racing and I was on the verge of tears. They were no more than 20 yards from me. I was absolutely terrified. But I so much wanted to be right in the middle of it.
The vivid feelings of vulnerability, desire and confusion I experienced in those moments on the playground that day would resurface again and again throughout my youth and young adult years. However, the vulnerability, desire and confusion that defined my same-sex attraction* has not (does not) define my life and my identity.
Same-sex sexual attraction is a reality of my life. Yet as any other part of my life, I must continually surrender it to the Lordship of my Savior Jesus Christ.
* For the purpose of this blog, when I use the term “same-sex attraction” or “SSA”, this is what I am describing – “having a personally significant and meaningful romantic and/or sexual attraction towards members of one’s own sex (or gender)”.
Within this blog, my mission is to write and share 100 articles that best represent my perspective regarding unwanted same-sex (sexual) attraction and homosexuality.
If you experience SSA like me, I encourage you to continue to persevere, grow and learn. Embrace humility, love and grace. Not just for yourself, but share them with others as well. Remember, you are worthy of love and respect. Your life and experiences do matter.
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I dedicate this website to the precious souls who struggle. The men, women and teens who have doubts and fears. But who also have hopes and dreams. This blog is an interactive resource; an outlet for those who are familiar with this lonely path. And for those who want to share this journey with us.
No matter how different or unique we are, every person wants and needs understanding, love, and affirmation as a person of worth, value and respect.
I want to share information and resources that can help you, your family, your friends and your church to move forward. To find solutions. To find common ground, understanding and love.
I want to reassure you that God is crazy about you. He does love you. He values you with a deep passion. God’s love for us is far greater than our sexuality.
Same-sex attraction or a homosexual orientation may be part of our experience. But heterosexuality is not the goal or the measure of success. What matters is growing in obedience and Christlikeness. Our vocation, our calling – our first and primary obligation is to God. In every aspect of our lives, we are to be faithful stewards of what He has entrusted us with. We don’t need to see same-sex attractions as the core of our identity. Our identity is in Christ.
Although I will get personal at times, this blog isn’t meant to be my personal journal. Likewise, I will NOT to present (nor engage in) convoluted sociological, theological, scientific or political arguments and theories about homosexuality or LGBT life/culture. There are times, places, contexts and forums for these types of discussions. This blog is not one of them. No one has ever been argued out homosexuality or into God’s kingdom solely based on apologetics.
Encouraging resources, helpful information and honest sharing are my goals. Biblical truth, love and grace are the frames of reference I will be coming from. Allow me to speak from my heart to yours. Let your perspective and heart speak to our fellow travelers and to me. May the Lord take our imperfections and use them for His purposes and glory.
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