Many people are surprised when I tell them that I am an unenthusiastic fan of Christian entertainment. However, in terms of quality for a “Christian” film, there is one definite exception. “Reconciliation” (starring Eric Nenninger and Jack Maxwell) is one of my absolute favorites. Wow! I cried and cried the first time I saw it….
Links To SSA-Related Blogs I Follow
While updating and redesigning this website (which is now complete), I decided to bundle the links for these blogs in a separate post/page for your convenience. Click the photo of the blogger to open their blog in a new tab or window. Julie Rodgers “I write and speak about homosexuality and the Christian faith. Because…
Reader Feedback and Insights (Updated March 2021)
Hey everyone! It has been 7 years since I started this blog. I have learned so much. And I have been humbled by you sharing your insights and experiences. Even though I am no longer posting any new articles, the blog is still active and I continue to monitor it on a regular basis. One…
Antonio’s Story
Antonio is 35 years old. He states he is sexually attracted to other men. My name is Antonio, 35 years of age and reside in Georgia. I became involved in “the life” as they called it. I was molested at the age of 5; which I feel is what opened the door. I was the…
If You Are Struggling With Unwanted Same-Sex Attractions (or a Gay Identity)
This post is specifically written from and to a male’s perspective. One of my favorite sayings is, “some people just require and need more understanding than others.” God created each of us. He loves us, has plans for our lives and wants to help us (Psalm 12:15; Psalm 139:13 – 16; Jeremiah 1:4, 5). In…
Listen To Him: Encouragement For Parents
Video Summary: Scroll down to read the full text of this article. If you are a parent, let me first say I can’t even begin to imagine how you feel or what you are going through. Please weigh and consider my brief thoughts with the concern with which they are given. I strongly urge you…
More On Coming Out (Part 2): How Open Should You Be?
Originally posted on Spiritual Friendship:
As I mentioned in my last post, I’m often asked by other sexual minority Christians how open they should be about their sexuality. There is no single answer for everyone, so I would like to offer some reflections on the process of discernment. Towards that end, in my previous post…
How To Manage Sexual Temptation When Traveling
My previous articles on lust, pornography, sexual addiction and masturbation are here, here and here. Today’s post (and next week’s post) are a continuation of these articles. The stress of being isolated or having to deal with strained relationships is hard enough for many men who struggle with unwanted homoerotic sexuality. For some, the holiday…
Same-Sex Attraction: Pornography and Masturbation
Video Summary (3 videos): Scroll down to read the full text of this article. This article is the continuation of Same-Sex Attraction and Lust. This article is written from and to a male’s perspective. Today’s post is divided into 4 sections . . . (1) Thoughts and Considerations (2) Masturbation Inventory (3) Pornography Use…
What Do You Want the Church (Your Church) To Know About You?
“When we cripple a person’s opportunity to be honest and open we destroy their chance to find identity in Christ.” I want the seven questions in this video to be an opportunity for you to express to others what you want them to know. . About: You are invited to answer these questions by clicking…
Validating Same-Sex Attracted Christians
Video Summary: Scroll down to read the full text of this article. . “People who surrender their unwanted same-sex attractions to the Lord need time and support to fulfill God’s plan for their lives. As with each of us, they need love, acceptance, and accountability to grow. As we stand alongside them and support their…
Homosexuality and the Church (Part 3): We Must Acknowledge and Understand LGBT Culture and History
Video Summary: Scroll down to read the full text of this article. Part 3 of 4 The relationships among the various Christian communities and the various LGBT communities are complex and difficult. There is misunderstanding, bigotry, assumptions, scapegoating, mistrust, defensiveness, cowardice, fear, hostility and ignorance on all sides. One of the biggest challenges for the…
Ministering To Gay Teenagers: Practical Help For Youth Workers and Families
from My Recommended Reading List To view the complete list of my favorite books on the subject of same-sex attractions, click this link: My List of Recommended Books As I mentioned in an earlier post, I don’t agree with every single idea, concept or thesis discussed in every book on my list. But each selection…
“Why Don’t You Have A Girlfriend?” (and Other Nosy Questions)
“Why are you still single?” “When are you going to have children?” “Do you plan on getting married anytime soon?” “Why don’t you have a girlfriend?” Now that I have reached the age of 40, my romantic aspirations are no longer a topic of conversation at family gatherings. (However, there is that one person who…
As a Christian, how should I respond to someone’s homosexuality? (Part 1)
Video Summary: Scroll down to read the full text of this article. Part 1 of 2 “As a Christian, how should I respond to someone’s homosexuality? I suspect someone I know is struggling. I don’t want to ‘out’ him or embarrass him. I just want to reach out to him without pushing him away.” This…
Bend Down, Not Over: An Interview with Robert L. (Pt 4 of 4)
“When you came to Jesus as a gay sex addict, He took what He had to work with, a malfunctioning passion to love indiscriminately . . . it is now a gift in the Restorer’s hand . . . the ability to love without prejudice.” – Steve, Robert’s accountability partner and friend (from the article:…
How Do You Describe Your Sexual Identity?
Video Summary: Scroll down to read the full text of this article. Sexuality is fundamentally personal and subjective. Introspection and self-knowledge are often difficult. We need to be careful when we consider using (or not using) labels to describe ourselves and others. Labels are words that we create, assign and use to describe feelings, senses,…
Homosexuality and the Christian: A Guide for Parents, Pastors, and Friends
from My Recommended Reading List One of my goals for this blog in 2013 is to spotlight my “Recommended Reading List”. To view the complete list of my favorite books on the subject of same-sex attractions, click this link: My List of Recommended Books As I mentioned in an earlier post, I don’t agree with…
How To Talk To Young Kids About Same-Sex Relationships (Jason Bilbrey)
As 2014 draws to a close, I am highlighting my three favorite blog posts and bloggers (in no particular order). For a list of my favorite bloggers (and blog posts), click here. My second choice for the year: Jason Bilbrey He is the director of Pastoral Care at the Marin Foundation. Here’s his blog: jasonbilbrey.com…
Love Without Strings: Male Prostitution, Domestic Violence and Survivors of Abuse
Video Summary: Scroll down to read the full text of this article. . In the post “How Can the Church Reach Out (Part 4): Encouragement For Church Leaders”, I suggested initiating (or supporting) a HIV/AIDS ministry (organization) as a way to soften hearts and build relationships. Here’s an excerpt. . . “Start by making your…
Managing Your Same-Sex Attractions (Part 1 of 4): Recognizing and Tracking Your Habits
Video Summary: This video is longer than other videos in this series. To make it easier to follow, I added a smooth jazz track. You may want to adjust your volume accordingly. Scroll down to read the full text of this article. A practical application of managing one’s experience of unwanted same-sex attraction (especially if…
An Alternative Script For Same-Sex Attraction (Nick Roen)
It is that time of year when I spotlight my three favorite blog posts and bloggers of the year (in no particular order). For a list of my favorite bloggers (and blog posts), click here. First up for 2014: Nick Roen Nick blogs at: hopeinvisible.weebly.com . 4 Links to my favorite articles by Nick. And…
Connecting With Pain and Brokenness
Today’s post serves two purposes. First, it clarifies my background outlined on the “About Me” page. Second, it introduces an upcoming 4-part interview series on this blog. It was the spring of 1998. Having graduated from a Christian university in Nashville two years earlier, I moved to New England to further my training as a…
Male Friendship and Emotional Intimacy
Video Summary: Scroll down to read the full text of this article. . Why do men generally act as if they don’t need one another? Why do they continue to live isolated and defeated spiritual lives? Because men are macho. Men are self-reliant. Men don’t touch. Men don’t feel. Men love things and believe it…
Experience Unwanted Same-Sex Attractions? What Stresses You Out The Most? (poll question)
Hey everyone. Today’s poll question serves as an introduction to next week’s post, Anticipating Challenges and Difficult Circumstances. Of the 21 options listed below, you can choose as many as you want. You can only vote once. If you wish to elaborate on your responses, you are welcome to do so in the “Comments” section….
Bend Down, Not Over: An Interview with Robert L. (Pt 3 of 4)
When you study Robert’s website (link below), you will find a central theme emerging – the necessity to trust and obey the Lord Jesus Christ; to experience a genuine faith walk where frustration, mistakes, stumbling, imperfection, pain and messiness are to be expected – not ignored nor hidden behind a mask. In Part One of…
Same-Sex Attractions 